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Obsessions, Sorcery, Black Magic, Fantasies,
Psychic Energy Theft, and Predatory Psychic Behavior
Use and Misuse of Divinatory Skills
|H. H. Dalai Lama, 365 Dalai Lama: Daily Advice from the Heart,|| |
Anyone who is indifferent to the well-being of other people,
and to the causes of their future happiness,
can only be laying the ground for their own misfortune.
Q: Dear Mrs. Lama,Thanks for your help with interpreting the charts for me and my girlfriend. I need to ask your help to figure out how to get my girlfriend to get closer to me, both physically and emotionally. Is there a gemstone I can get for her, or maybe a book she could read to understand me better? I am sure that she's the girl for me but I'm having so much trouble getting her to see why we should be together... Here's the story:
Lee Anne is a presenter on our local TV channel here in Los Angeles. I watch a lot of television because I'm a video editor and frankly I also have a lot of free time. I knew Lee Anne from seeing her on TV, then I met her at a studio party. At the party, I offered to read her palm (my mom taught me how) and she seemed really into it. She looked deep into my eyes when I was talking about her lines and I thought I felt her falling in love with me. Soon after, she asked me to read her palm again, and we ended up having dinner and talking. She kept looking into my eyes and she seemed so fascinated with everything I said about her. After that I emailed her a couple of times and she was so friendly. I knew she was my girl then.
Well, that's when I ordered the marriage reading from you. I am crazy in love with this girl. I have watched all of her shows 100 times, taped them to re-watch, and I dream about her every night. And I think about her every day. I am studying our charts as you explained them and I think we will be happy together. I wanted to ask you about marriage timing, when you think we will get married?
I am ready now. She doesn't seem to be ready though.
She's stopped emailing me. When I called her to tell her how much a missed her, she said that she really appreciated the palm readings but that she doesn't want to go out with me.
I'm so sure this is the right girl, I've checked Tarot and I-Ching and all the readings show the soulmate. So I'm really confused and I need your help. I think I see where we both have marriage periods coming up, but I feel a little desperate and I need your help to bring her back.
A : Dear Pete,
If the young woman is not returning your attentions, you might have to be more honest with yourself. She is not interested. To continue to obsess about her and dream about her and watch her TV shows on tape 100 times will eventually turn you into a psychic predator.
If she's not returning your calls or emails, that means she doesn't want to continue your relationship. It sounds like your actual social relationship was very brief, and that you saw great potential after one meeting, and perhaps you developed that potential into a major fantasy. She on the other hand did not care to develop the potential. She has other interests and she is not feeling connected to you.
So what you might have to deal with is an infatuation, a fantasy, or a speculative projection. That's not a human social relationship: it's an astral mirage. It's not a good idea to use Jyotisha marriage compatibility rules or Tarot readings or any other form of divination to convince yourself that the mirage is really an attraction * akarshana * between two people who love each other and want to get married.
The fact that one of those two people has said she is not interested is The most important fact to honor.
Bottom line: I cannot help you to get "closer" to her, and I would strongly recommend that, for reasons of psychic integrity, you leave her alone.
IMO it is very important for folks with divinatory skills, such as you were taught by your mom, to use their divinations only to help people. Never try to control other people through using your psychic or intuitive powers.
Controlling people through projecting one's own desires into another person's private psychic space is called black magic, or sorcery.
Unless she has welcomed you into her life, don't keep projecting your needs into this young woman's dream space without her welcoming permission. It is recommended to not continue to read her Jyotisha charts, or look for her marriage timing, or ask the Tarot cards whether and when you will be married to Lee Anne.
When a person tells you that they do not want you to participate in their life, it is time to stop doing divinations about them and their activities. Otherwise you will get sucked into a delusory tantric trap.
Your Ketu in bhava-7 = boundary issues in relationships.
Even though you have very well developed divinatory skills and you can penetrate her aura quite easily with your concentrated intuitive imaging, try to practice the ethical discipline of respecting her not interested boundaries,
Sadly, it is not uncommon to see psychically predatory projecting behavior in young male students of Jyotisha (and other divinatory arts).
The unfortunate pattern Generally, involves an introverted, studious, and somewhat manipulative but intelligent young student of divinatory arts, who may obtain the birth data of a female with whom they have a casual social relationship - perhaps someone the young fellow has met in a public setting.
The erstwhile 'diviner' will offer the young woman a palm reading, or astrology reading, or remedial gem advice, read their Tarot cards, offer an aura reading, etc. Having some intimate knowledge of the young woman's psychic terrain, the male then builds an imaginary relationship with her, constructing an authentic union with all the details, and begins to think of her as his wife.
He is dreaming about her, studying the divinations about her, and generally practicing a nasty sort of black magic in order to attract this female into his life. The material he uses as a "key" to enter her private space is the information that she provided him in order to do the psychic reading: the temperature-image map of her aura from hands-on aura healing, her birth data for an astrological chart, the map of her palm, or her deepest personal questions for a throwing of dice or a reading of cards.
| After the reading or perhaps a series of readings is completed, the female who has no interest in an intimate relationship may perceive the persistent male diviner as unpleasant and predatory. The male However, slides deeper and deeper into his fantasy belief that the imaginary relationship is " fated". |
Of course the delusory dynamic is not limited to males! Women may do the same thing with men toward whom they have developed an emotionally strong but socially groundless attraction * akarshana *. Often the men are married or otherwise "not interested" but this does not affect the woman's conviction that the relationship is "fated".
Here is a cautionary tale about how easy it is to slip into sorcery and "believe" in one's own delusory projections:
The Faux Fiancé
Thanks for your help with interpreting the charts for me and my girlfriend. I need to ask your help to figure out how to get my girlfriend to get closer to me, both physically and emotionally. Is there a gemstone I can get for her, or maybe a book she could read to understand me better? I am sure that she's the girl for me but I'm having so much trouble getting her to see why we should be together... Here's the story:
Susie told everyone that she was planning to be married in the summer, to a successful businessman who belonged to her church. She said it had been love at first sight, and while they had been very careful to observe a conservative religious lifestyle (no"dating") she had already bought a gorgeous wedding dress for the ceremony. She had been touring nice hotels and restaurants in the area to find the best venue for her wedding reception.
"Susie" invited me to see her dress, which I admired, and so she put on the gown for me to see her in it. She looked radiantly beautiful! While modeling her gown, she told me further details about her beloved: his noble character, how her first husband had been irreligious and how this man was so firmly rooted in his faith, his annual mission of charitable service, his dedication to his children, and more fine qualities. I felt very happy for her.
The summer came and went, but there was no word on Susie's marriage. I had expected one day to see limousines pulling up to her house door, trucks delivering wedding gifts, or at least a handsome, impeccably dressed man walking up her front steps at some time during the summer. In the autumn, Susie was evicted from her house for non-payment of rent (she lived alone in a family-sized home). I saw her carrying out a number of boxes, some furniture, and that beautiful wedding gown - in a large, transparent plastic bag.
Her sister came to help Susie with the packing, and I asked whether the wedding had been cancelled. Oh no! laughed the sister. There was no wedding in reality. That man who was Susie's "fated" husband, the love at first sight fellow, had been a happily married father of a family for 20 years. He was indeed a good man and a loyal member of the church which he and Susie attended, but he had never felt an interest in Susie, whom he knew only distantly."She created the whole thing in her head," said her sister."Her buying that wedding dress, on credit, as if the dress would create the wedding -- that was the craziest thing I ever saw".Apparently Susie had just decided, based on her feelings: it was fated. He was the guy. On the basis of her (anxiety-driven)" false certainty" that he was " The One", Susie made a number of important logical decisions. She not only bought a very expensive ceremonial wedding dress, but also she stopped paying her house rent - reasoning of course that she would be moving into her new husband's home. According to her sister, she had also quit her job in anticipation of her new role as the wife of a prosperous businessman.
It turns out that Susie had a host of life problems: she had a personality disorder that caused sudden, angry tirades; she was very artistic and trained as an interior decorator, but she had been fired from several firms and sued by clients; she had chronic financial problems due to luxury spending that caused multiple bankruptcies and destruction of her marriage. She had no friends; and her own children would not talk with her.
To solve all of these problems with one simple magical action , she constructed the Perfect Marriage and Lifestyle, and populated it with fantasy players, including the hapless man who ended up having to obtain a restraining order against her.
Word to the Wise:
"Susie" had consulted a number of psychics, who apparently all told her that her wedding was "right around the corner". My guess = these psychics were seeing astral-photographic images of Susie's vivid and * detailed* expectations, including her beautiful dress and the handsome, prosperous man. At the height of her disordered frenzy, Susie was cycling through the full inventory of her active imagination, all day every day.
Most psychic readers are not Jyotishi. Readers look for a vivid photo-narrative of the "what-is " querent's present moment . By contrast, astrologers generally look for deeper karmic instructions which provide answers to questions of not only "what" but also "why".
In Susie's case, the psychic readers just reported back - accurately -- the imagery they detected in Susie's aura . Unfortunately, every time Susie had her fantasy confirmed with some form of skilled divination, she received further validation for the "fated" quality of her unwanted, invasive imagery, and her convictions grew ever deeper. Her delusion grew roots.
I'm not saying that Susie's delusions were the fault of the psychics who bolstered her confidence in the validity of her imagery. It's not; they were just doing their jobs. Rather, the point is that divinations on illegitimately projected imagery are potentially very harmful to the mind.
In the end, Susie did not hurt anyone except herself. Her beloved faux fiancé - a middle aged, socially confident, and prayerful man - was psychically proactive and well aware of what was going on. He found her to be so psychically predatory that he arranged to have her excluded from their religious congregation (sangha). She was so embarrassed by the church enquiry that she moved to another town.
By contrast, a younger woman, who has not Yet, achieved the powerful social confidence of middle age, might not know how to defend herself. Thus a psychically predatory agent, even if he doesn't exactly know what he's doing and believes that he is motivated by "love", can invade her space and cause damage - must be repaid later.
| from Deity Yoga in Action and Performance Tantra
by His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Tsong-ka-pa, and Jeffrey Hopkins:
"The self that is merely designated to mind and body has two natures, conventional and ultimate; its final nature is the ultimate one--the suchness of self which is free from all signs of dualistic elaborations.
The mind that knows one's own nature to be beyond the limits of dualistic elaborations in accordance with its actual mode of subsistence ascertains suchness.
Emptiness is called suchness because the nature of phenomena is exhausted as just such, as nothing else. The contemplation of suchness as equally the nature of yourself and the deity being meditated on is called the ultimate deity.
Just as one's own nature or mode of being is ultimately free from all elaborations of the conception of inherent existence and is essentially at peace since the self is only nominally existent, so is the status of the deity being meditated."
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